How To Choose A Psychic You Can Trust
What’s a mnemonic? Those letters that make up a word to help you remember something — like PTA for Parent-Teacher Association…
I’ve got one to help you you stay safe when you look for an intuitive to consult: and it’s the word PSYCHIC.
Professionalism, Sharing references, You are in control of your own destiny, Charges, Here, I can fix anything…for a price, Inappropriate actions, and Connections.
Professionalism. The psychic you choose should be and act like a professional. This doesn’t mean they have to be full time. It means they respect others in their field, your time and energy as a client, and follow generally accepted social behaviors. Think of it this way:
If you needed a lawyer, you’d choose one who answered your questions, gave you references, and told you exactly what the work would cost you and how such costs were structured.
They wouldn’t patronize you or try to intimidate you into using their services.
You’d be able to make appointments in a reasonable amount of time, know that appointments would be kept, and you wouldn’t have to cool your heels for hours after you arrived.
You’d get clear “layman’s explanations” for any terms or events you didn’t understand.
You’d expect your business to be kept private and not discussed with other clients.
Overall, you’d look for courtesy and respect — not being treated like a supplicant, an ignorant simpleton, or “money on two feet.”
And that’s what you should expect from your psychic as well. No exceptions.
Sharing references. If you found your potential psychic through a source other than word-of-mouth, ask for references. Most professional psychics have clients happy to vouch for them.
Ask:
· Were you comfortable with this person?
· Did they charge fairly?
· Was the information you received accurate and/or useful? Why or why not?
· How hard is it to get an appointment?
· Did they try to sell all kinds of “extras” (mojo bags, spell candles, curse-breakers, etc.)?
· Would you go back to this person again?
You need more than one or two conversations in case the psychic harps on the same themes all the time.
Are they always talking about failing relationships, or dark futures, or devious connections?
Then I bet there’s a fair amount of Cosmic Ick in the psychic’s personal life.
Or if all a psychic ever gives is “sweetness and light,” with no shadings of challenge or growth, then they either can’t or won’t see that life has both blessings and tests. Life isn’t a fairy tale.
Honesty and neutrality are the mark of a clear channel psychic.
You are in control of your own destiny. No psychic should try to convince you that they see your death, you’re cursed, you have bad luck, or that events in your life are totally out of your control, so you need someone else (like them, maybe?) to get you out of your dire predicament.
If someone starts feeding you information that makes you doubt yourself, your life, or your state of mind, LEAVE.
On the other hand, if they don’t say “everything is sweetness and light,” pointing out difficulties and challenges, that may be what they really see.
So it’s appropriate to alert you. They may even suggest several options to consider, or actions to help you make the best of a situation, or point out likely reactions if you take this path or that.
Take such advice the way you would anyone else’s; see if it resonates with you. If it does, then use it. If it feels neutral or “off,” then feel free to ignore it or shelve it for a period of time.
That, my friends, is what free will is all about!
With every rule, of course, there’s an exception: if you really DON’T like what you hear, but it keeps nibbling at you — both during and after the session?
Could be that you are being pointed in one of those directions that provides growth. If you’re confronted by some useful but vile-tasting medicine, it might be time to screw up your nose and take it.
Go back to the session information after a week or two; try to be objective about it and listen to your own intuition. It might have settled into something you want to use.
Charges. Psychics can charge as little as $10 and as much as — well, as the traffic will bear. Internationally famous psychics can charge in the thousands of dollars.
Generally, psychics run somewhere between $10 to $200 for a set price or may charge “by the minute.” For instance, $1 per minute figures out to $60 per hour, and the psychic only charges for the time in session with you.
Because you’ve asked for service from the psychic in question, they do deserve to get paid if they are at all courteous, reasonable, and relatively on target. Notice, I say “relatively.”
No human is 100% accurate. But if they’re clearly doing their best for you, remember that they’re in business like a doctor, a plumber, or a master chef. As in any other profession, for a psychic to ask for fair payment isn’t wrong.
Think of it as exchanging your energy (payment) for the psychic’s (their abilities, time, and focus on you).
Here, I can fix anything…for a price. Here we come to those “psychics” who prey on those who feel powerless about their own lives.
I’ve had embarrassed clients come to me after they paid thousands of dollars to have a hex lifted, to chase away an evil spirit, to get rid of a rival, to force another person to fall in love with them, to cause misfortune to a perceived enemy, or to pick magic numbers that will win the Irish Sweepstakes. (None of which, of course, happened.)
The reasons are endless and, sad to say, there are folks in the psychic business solely for the money and the power. (That can be true in any profession, but in one as little-understood as psychic work, the opportunities to bilk the innocent are enormous.)
If, my friend, you come away from reading this with one piece of information fixed in your minds, make it this: YOU are the one who can heal your own life, meet your own challenges, and clear your own karma — no one else.
Karmically, you do not have the right to “force” another’s will: to fall in love with you, to give you money, to do anything. You are only in charge of your life. (Most of us have our hands full with that anyway!)
And, by extension, the psychic who promises to fix your life with candles, mojo bags, hex powder, floor washes or the like, is assuming that your free will is theirs for the taking.
Prove them wrong!
The exception? There are many honest, talented and dedicated Wiccans and other practicing pagans who work with candle rituals, herbs, etc. They aren’t included in this caution.
The reputable ones will show you how to work with such things while teaching you how to engage your will in the matter; they won’t say they’ll do everything for a ton of extra money. In this case, the objects they suggest for use are merely your tools.
Your will is still what makes them work.
Inappropriate actions. We’ve gone over some of the lesser of these: psychics trying to sell you services you don’t need, and psychics trying to convince you that they, and ONLY they, know the answers to your life’s challenges. But there are other actions of a darker and more sinister kind.
“A muddy channel carries muddy water.” Make sure your psychic isn’t muddied by fundamentalist thinking, an overwhelming ego, negative energies regarding their own lives, or just plain greed.
What’s an inappropriate action? Anything where the psychic tries to worm themselves into your life, your finances, or your personal information.
Examples:
· The psychic tries to convince you that your money, items of jewelry or other valuables are “cursed” and the only way to “clear” them is for the psychic to take them over for a period (these can include wills, deeds or other legal papers).
· The psychic tries to convince you of some kind of Karmic connection they have with you; you MUST become their student, or support them, or otherwise wrap your life around theirs.
· The psychic tries to convince you that your ways of thinking (religion, beliefs, etc.) are damning, and that you MUST change them on peril of your soul, and that they have the only answer that will save you.
· The psychic takes advantage of your instability regarding a relationship and “makes moves” on you; this is sexual predation, pure and simple.
You can see where we’re heading… true metaphysicians and spiritual intuitives know we’re all entitled to our free will. No one can take it from us without incurring some serious Karmic debt.
So, if someone tries to convince you that you’re on the road to hell, and they’re the only vehicle to take you away from all this, run — from them, under your own power, and immediately.
Connections. Connections are what using a psychic is all about: connections with your inner guides, connections with the paths you need for growth, connections with people and things you can trust.
The inner connection you forge with a trustworthy psychic is a valuable one that, in the very best of circumstances, will be of mutual benefit.
Even if you do everything we’ve discussed above, the last and most important key to choosing your psychic is going to be gauging how you feel.
Is there is a sense of neutrality?
Are you open to what they say, but not invested in them before the meeting?
Do you get a feeling of, “Yes, this is a person I want to connect my energies with?”
Then, it’s a safe bet that your experience with the psychic will good for you.
If, at any time before you sit down with them, you feel a twinge of “ehhh, maybe not” then HONOR that intuition! Keep looking. There are enough of us out there for you to hit the bull’s eye on trust.
And, now, take that connection one step further. If you feel that you’ve been treated fairly by the psychic you’ve chosen or if you feel the information is rational, relevant, and useful to you, then make connections with your friends. Let them know that you have a psychic you trust and find reputable.
Face it: we intuitives aren’t exactly able to advertise on prime-time TV or radio — and even cable has been taken up by people touting the latest shady phone psychic sites.
The best way for us to continue our work is for positive word-of-mouth reporting to come from our clients. This helps build the bridges of trust all the way around.
