Enlightenment Is Found In Questions, Not Answers

People come to intuitives for answers — about their love lives, their finances, their children, their parents, their futures. And often about the Huge Questions of Life, the Universe and Everything. At the same time, most of my clients don’t know how to ask the right questions.

Let me explain why some questions aren’t appropriate and why some questions lose their value if a psychic were to answer them, regardless of what the answer might be.

When people ask me, “Can you tell me what my soul’s plan was for this life? What lessons am I to learn? What is my higher purpose, my mission, and how do I do it,” I know we’re starting on the wrong track. These questions are too all-encompassing, and not something an intuitive ought to tackle.

Why?

Because figuring out our soul’s plan/lessons/mission is part of our life’s journey. And to ask an intuitive “what’s the plan” as if the intuitive could explain the entire thing in an hour is neither feasible nor useful.

Would you be able to tell me everything about your life since birth — in detail — in 60 minutes? I doubt it.

Even if I could do a multi-hour session without exhausting myself (or you!), just handing you those answers dismisses the entire reason for setting these challenges in your pre-birth planning session.

We come down to Earth deliberately forgetting our unity and our complete plan in order to recreate/reconstruct it through our experiences.

That’s what’s valuable. That’s the precious treasure we bring back Home when we transition after a life filled with learning, understanding and sharing.

If you can trace a clear pattern of behavior or occurrences and want to know why the pattern repeats, how to stop it, or how it serves you — and those questions key us into an important challenge — then that’s valid to review.

That kind of information can lead to vast improvements in the quality of your life and your road to Self.

But merely asking “What am I supposed to learn? What’s my plan?” is like expecting your professor to let you look at the answers before you go into your exam.

How much would you really learn? And how much would you treasure those answers so easily gotten?

Let’s look at some appropriate questions for a session that seeks to unblock challenges. You’ll note sometimes it’s a very short question, and sometimes it takes a little detail to flesh out, but they are always about a single focus:

· Am I supposed to write a book? Why do I constantly feel like I am supposed to do something related to writing?

· Why do I seem to constantly diminish my creative talents in favor of more commercial activities? How can I stay true to my vision yet survive financially?

· Alcohol has always played a role in my life (first father’s addiction, then taken on by me at the time of his death). Maybe it’s not a character weakness on my part. Can it actually be serving a higher purpose?

· Recently I’ve been drawn to Energy Medicine. Is it the right direction for me? If I take courses, will they improve my ability to help those I work with? Will it boost my own spiritual growth and physical healing? I have a deep soul urging to learn things to help myself and my clients, but I want to make sure I’m taking the course that best fits with my purpose in this lifetime.

· Sexual energy between my husband and me was never really there — and this has become an issue for me since I’ve gotten older. I’ve suppressed this for years. It’s affecting my health. I know it’s part of my spiritual development. I know you can’t tell me to leave or to stay. But could help me understand what purpose is being served by this relationship?

In these questions, each client has identified a stumbling block that appears to have some duration.

So, looking at how to clear the block will move their life energy forward — not only in the challenge they pinpoint, but also in many tangential areas of their lives.

In other situations, they might note a pattern of desire: service through healing, the inspirational life, or the need to create something beautiful, purposeful, or enlightening.

Remember that we can’t look at every single challenge in your life in one session. It would overwhelm both of us. Each challenge can spark deep questions, and they deserve enough time for investigation and settling the energies of the answer in you emotionally AND spiritually.

To expect to get and incorporate a mountain of important and emotionally charged answers from one session is asking for failure — and a heck of a headache.

So, how do you ask the right Major Life questions?

FIRST: Take some time for self-examination in order to form the questions. Do you have a repeating pattern, a stumbling block, something that always trips you up no matter what you do around it?

Is there a part of your life that means a great deal to you (career, relationships, security) that you need to improve in a deep manner?

SECOND: Note how long the need for answers has been with you. Has it been building gradually, or was it triggered by a person, event, or internal epiphany?

THIRD: Make sure you are completely ready to hear whatever the intuitive has to say regarding the answer. As always, they may not tell you what you want to hear (“Yes, you were meant to be a great ballerina.”), but what you need to hear (“Movement is vital for you, but more in terms of Tai Chi or yoga than performance art.”).

Figuring out your life path and mission is central to a pathway to joy, service and completion. But in this case, the journey is the most important aspect of your road — not the destination.

Take your time with it…savor it…put your heart into the journey.

And what you will gain is not a simple answer, but a beacon to light up all the roads here in Earthschool on which you find yourself traveling.